Let’s face it, nobody likes being told they’re not doing something right, but sometimes the criticism that angers us the most is often the correction that we need the most.
It doesn’t mean that the person offering advice thinks your a failure, deep down everybody has good intentions and are most likely wanting to you to succeed. If you can learn to take their advice constructively you may start to notice any negative traits that you may or may not know even know you had that show you the things you need to be working on to grow to be a better person.
The key to this is shifting your focus onto the person giving advice, see them not as an enemy but as a true friend that’s trying to help you, this will allow for you to digest their criticisms in a more humble manner so as to not upset the person that is potentially trying to help you.
Like the Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius once said, ‘If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will happily change, for I seek the truth, by which no one was ever truly harmed. It is the person who continues in his self-deception and ignorance who is harmed.’
Put yourself in your advisors shoes, it may not be easy for them to be giving you the advice they feel you need to hear, having humility will prevent pride getting in the way of good advice but also staying humble will prevent you getting so frustrated that you feel like giving up.
“A person that fails to mature as a well rounded adult is a person that refuses to take advice from others”
Probably the most difficult thing to do when it comes to accepting other people’s criticisms is offering to thank them for the advice, but by doing so not only will you feel better afterwards, but you are also subliminally encouraging your friend to offer more guidance the next time you may need it. If you want to succeed in this world and escape the victim mentality then tough love is needed, this applies to everyone, myself included.